owning your worth

I remember trying so hard to make relationships work in my life and no matter what I did, or how hard I tried--it was never enough. Therefore, I felt I was not enough.

Looking back, there was nothing missing in me. There was nothing wrong with me. But it sure felt that way...

On their end, there was just a bar set to a height that was unreachable. Frustration, disappointment, and hurt were my constant companions. And on my end, I finally realized that the "I was not enough" self-belief was already living in me long before I met them. So, it was no wonder that I drew people and jobs in my life that reflected this "core belief."

The people (or jobs) you "sign up for" in life show you what you feel you deserve by: 1) revealing how high/low your tolerance is for being disrespected/mistreated/abused, and 2) how high/low your worthiness is by demanding respect and being treated kindly/fairly based on healthy boundaries you set and enforce for yourself.

If you don't create self-protecting boundaries for yourself and ENFORCE THEM, your tolerance for B.S. will always be high and your self-worth will remain in the gutter.

"Owning your worth" is you standing your ground with people who mess with you--both personally and professionally. People test your tolerance and if you guard your "worth," it will grow. If you don't, your self-worth, self-respect, and self-confidence will be debited one assault at a time.

TRY to see that sticking up/protecting yourself is a "deposit" into your self-worth, self-respect, self-confidence, and self-love accounts. And remember if you don't guard and "own your worth," all 4 accounts will be debited into emotional bankruptcy.

When people mess with you, disrespect you, devalue you, etc., they are doing you a favor. They are helping you BUILD your nest egg of wholeness that holds those 4 accounts.

Instead of be upset with them...THANK THEM for teaching you what you will and won't tolerate...and for reminding you to "own your worth." And each time you stick up for yourself and guard your worth, you are feeding, fueling, and strengthening positive self-beliefs/core beliefs for yourself.

So, what lives on the inside of you...is reflected by what/who you choose on the outside.

Juliann Evans, Life Coach | www.juliannevans.com